Posted on August 10, 2017
So, you are love sick and you have no idea where your life is heading, right? Well, I don’t really know you, and I have no idea of what exactly is going on in your life. But I am sure that it is pretty hard time for you. You are numb. You have tried a lot, but nothing is getting you anywhere. Your whole life seems to be stuck into some shit hole.
If so is the case, you have come to the right place. You and me shall work together through this post, to rescue you. Great me!
Love is one of the most beautiful things in the world. It makes us more human. But films and TV have brainwashed us into thinking that the only ideal life is one with a lover. Love has been commercialized in order to boost the sales of grooming products, clothes, gadgets, fast food, greeting cards, gifts, and what not. Consequently, our generation does not think of love as a part of life, we have taken it as life and made it our life’s sole purpose to find true love. However, looking closer, we shall find that the opposite case holds a better argument.
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Pretty bhadkau, isn’t it? I didn’t have the luxury of such anti-love tonics, back when I was suffering with my heartbreak. Sorry committed people. Nothing personal. :p
Despite everything, sometimes, stopping yourself from falling in love is like trying to turn off the gravity. And we end up heartbroken, rejected, or abandoned. You are not alone in this madness. According to a report by NCRB: Heartbreak causes more suicides than unemployment. Every other person you know is suffering from some or the other kind of love sickness. But no matter how bad it looks, with patience and a little courage, you can overcome it. Here are the inspirations to do just that:
Lately, I have been doing a lot of research about heartbreaks to be able to compose this piece. And what I found was that everyone is talking about breakups, and no one is worried about – the poor people like (possibly) you and (definitely) me – who broke their own hearts in one sided love. But I later realized that the same hacks that help in breakups, work even better in dealing with rejections. And believe me, it is better to remain the 12th man, than to get into the game and hurt yourself so bad that you can never play again. Hail forever-alone’s!
As the above article says, healing is quite a slow process. Throughout this time, spiteful thoughts shall chase you with their burning arrows aimed at your already bleeding heart, while you are running away from them on a snail’s back. May be, it is the time that you learned the powerful art of mastering your mind. Sad thoughts and emotions will still exist, but they won’t trouble you anymore. Learning this art is a long (beautiful) journey, you might begin here:
A heartbreak isn’t just a struggle with emotions, you can indeed use it to your own advantage. Adele, the famous singer, is a brilliant example of it (interested in her breakup story? Here). The reserve of pain that you have in your heart can be pumped out beautifully in the form of art – whatever it be: painting, writing, acting, singing, dancing, crafting, social work etc. This aspect of heart breaks has been so beautifully portrayed in the article below, that you might just feel like reaching out and thanking that person.
Finally, we are moving on to something that everyone can connect to – the ones in love and the ones out of it.
So, you stopped believing that you are a victim, found out the superhero inside you through self-exploration, and realized that you have superpowers in the form of creativity with which you can do great things in life. But without a sense of purpose, you shall be as good as Captain America before he decided to stand against Hydra. (4 o’clock, Captain!)
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
Heartbreak creates a big vacuum in your heart, whatever you fill it with, would stay with you forever (cigarette, alcohol, daily soaps). It is the perfect time to fill your heart with a passion that gives purpose to your life. Indeed, the main purpose behind the creation of this blog is to make people fall in love with their work that adds beauty to their life and to the world.
So, you want to do the work you are passionate about, but you are afraid if at all, it will earn you good money. Let me tell you, dear, you have done quite crazy things for people in your life, it is time you did something crazy for your own self. Just dive into your passion, connect with more and more people related to your field, read as many books and blogs about it as you can, produce as much of your art as you can, share it with your friends, family and anyone you can reach and forget about the money part for a while. Read here for further boost:
I know I could keep on encouraging you to follow your passion for years. I could provide you with numerous places that would pour tonnes of inspiration upon you every day. In fact, I give that to you right here.
But no amount of motivation would last longer than a few minutes, given your state of mind. You will keep on procrastinating everything while being lost in your thoughts of ‘love’. You cannot chase your passion, as long as you are chasing love. It is either one or the other. It is a dreadful deadlock, because both the things mean a hell lot to you. Thank God, here is a key to it.
It is a waste of time to search for love. The better way of doing it is to strive to make yourself lovable and believe that the right person would enter your life when the time is right. And here is a good news:
This heartbreak was meant to happen in your life – at this particular time – because it would crack your heart at places so that light can get into it. Life has shaken you hard because it wanted you to wake up. Now, you can either keep on lying crumpled in your bed, and waste your life crying over things you can not control, or you can awaken and take charge of the controllable aspects of your life.
Deciding to move out of the heartbreak frees a lot of time in your life and a lot of space in your head. You no longer have to think of what the other person thinks of you and make yourself the center of your attention. You no longer have to devise ways to get them back or to impress them. Sure it hurts to be deprived of the attachment that you were so addicted to. It sucks. And it would continue to be the same for some time even after you start doing everything mentioned here.
But you know what, you will come out of it stronger than you have ever imagined. Just start with tiny changes to un-fuck your life. Look at the list of things you might have noted down while going through the articles and choose one to begin with. If you don’t find anything there, how about – beginning with – just having a healthy breakfast today? Or may be, trimming your nastily overgrown beards? Keep crawling towards the light, you don’t even have to walk – if you don’t want to.
I have spend more than 20+ hours carefully composing this post. Now I want something in return from you. You have got two options:
- Transfer 1 Million Dollars into my bank account. contact
(Funny, ain’t I?)
Start with something. Anything. But begin right now. Write down the thing that you want to do today, and get on with it. Began conquering your darkness before the monster takes over you once again. Within a few months, you will witness wonderful transformations in your life.
That is it for now. See you next week, with some new matter that matters to you. Did you like this first issue of our newsletter? Tell us in the comments below.
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After so much of the serious talk, you do deserve a dessert. Enjoy!